*Did you find you were getting in defensive mode ?
*Do you like to be touched ?
*Do you like to cuddle ?
*Have you ever had a massage ?
*Have you ever given a massage ?
*Do you like to be Hugged ?
*How often do you give Hugs out to others ?
*When you Hug do you make complete contact with the other person or is you butt and heart center away from the person a phrase loving called the "A frame hug" ?
*Do you hold hands with your partner ?
*Are you open to Public displays of affection- Hugs, Holding Hands ?
*Do you like to Kiss ?
*Do you like to be kissed ?
*When holding an item do you take the time to explore the texture of the item ?
*Do you like the texture of soft things ?
*Do you like the texture of rough things ?
*When was the last time you took a Hot bath ?
*When was the last time you went in a Hot tub ?
*When was the last time you went in the Ocean ?
*When was the last time you held a baby ?
Hugged for that long, where they completely Present ? Uncomfortable ?
The Massage were they completely relaxed and able to let go.
How was the massage ?
Was there anything different You would want to have done during the massage- too soft, too hard ?
Was it is easy or hard figuring out what you were holding in your hand ?
Did you really take the time to tune in, did you get frustrated,
give up, tune out ?
The Art of Communication -What are You Saying
Let me clarify WIN - WIN... A true win-win is when both parties are GIVING massive VALUE to one another because they CHOOSE to and for no other reason - Meaning there isn't the I did this for you, therefore, I expect this from you in return. You are either Willing to be completely in or not... Ultimately when we are GIVING freely to others willingly, the outcomes usually are that you are receiving as well; that just tends to be the way it is, that is if You are OPEN to receiving. That is a whole other subject.
The Ultimate setting for a Powerful, Sustainable, Joyful, Passionate Relationship is to have a Values and Goals alignment between two parties, where it is a Big Win-Win about the most commons things in any partnership: Values, Overall Outcomes wanted, Dreams, Interests, Friendships, Money, Sex, Work, How many Children, How will we raise our children, as all of these things are Vital to any successful relationship. FRIENDSHIP between the two parties is essential, it is the foundation of trust and is the pivotal building block to the beginning of anything and everything else.
The Art of the Multi-Sensory is a book in of itself so I will leave you with the above for now... And this is an abbreviated article from a course I teach on "The Art of the Multi-Sensory Journey" and part of a book - handbook - DVD- and Audio I am in the middle of writing and working on.