Showing posts with label Choice. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Choice. Show all posts

Thursday, January 17, 2013

Did I just Say that ???



On a recent post I read, the person replayed her day of a string of events including the losing of Car keys that got lost in the process of frustration. She later recognized the behavior and was actually surprised by some of it.  - The end result being that as soon as she Left go of everything (Frustration etc) the keys were quickly recovered.

So, the question is, has this every happened to You ?
And...
Who Controls our Reactions in times of stress ?

First things first, regardless of how much self-growth you have done, NLP, Hypnosis, Behavior Recognition, Behavior Modification etc... We have ALL had those moments of OMG... Did I just say and or do that...

What basically happens during times of Distress is our bodies go to two places:
1- The unconscious - Old behaviors will come up, sometimes even very early childlike behaviors.
2- Under extreme distress - The Flight or Flee alarm goes off.
Your body is designed to do whatever it takes to protect you from the presumed or actual threat.

There is also an actual Chemical Reaction that is happening - Our Cortisol (Stress Hormone) goes up, we start to sweat, our heart starts to beat faster etc...

Example of this: 
Why do you think they ask a Pregnant woman and her partner to pre-pack a bag and keep it in the car and to actively rehearse the action steps agreed upon for when the time comes they need to get to the Hospital.

It is because they know that when the moment arrives, emotional reactions will take over the action steps they have agreed upon.

So again I ask Who is in Control of our Reactions ?

While Yes it is true under extreme situations we might have the offbeat reaction one that we never anticipated, there are steps we can take to MINIMIZE them...
Let's face it, unless you have been trained for Extreme situations and are an:
Crisis Intervention Expert, A Fire Fighter, EMT, etc... chances are you are going to have some behavior come up that you would not expect.


Here are just a few of the Steps to take even before any events happen.
-Choose to Live a Life of Compassion and Kindness.
-Pay attention to what triggers You.
-Start becoming actively involved in catching yourself when a trigger starts.
-Learn some self NLP- Neuro Linguistic Programming.
-Learn some self Hypnosis techniques.


Here are just a few of the Steps we can take when under active stress:
-Step away from the situation and do something else.
-Step away from the situation and just Breathe, taking 3 Deep Breathes in and out makes a huge difference, it instantly starts to calm your nervous system down.
-Call a meeting to discuss the situation with all involved.
-If it is just You in the situation alone, do the breathing and step away.
-If You are actively involved in an intense situation and are alone, go seek the help of others.

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Enjoy the Journey
©2013 Carly Alyssa Thorne 

Birth - Death - Too Old - Choice



A Previous Blog Post and a Pod Cast I did on Conscious Death n' Dying


So my questions to You would Be the following and
Have You truly thought about the following:

How Old do you want to Live to ?
What is Your Purpose for wanting to Live till that Age ?
What are Your Terms for Your Living till that Age ?

Meaning- 
You Really need to get clear on your Intentions for wanting to Live till a certain age and under what environment and or conditions you would be willing to live till that Age...

*Most people FEAR Death and the Unknown.
*Most DO NOT want to end Up Living all alone in a Nursing Home ?
*Today's Society is constantly upping the Game on Longevity with Technology
and MANY are fascinated with what that all means...

It has almost become a Game to see how Long we can live and or cheat out on Death... 

Sooo... Again I ask the questions...

How Old do you want to Live to ?
What is Your Purpose for wanting to Live till that Age ?
What are Your Terms for Your Living till that Age ?
What is Your REAL WHY ???

So here is the Thing-
Depending on Your own UNIQUE belief's, faith, fears etc... We could get into Endless conversations about Ethics about the prolonging or ending of ones life...  Fate, Destiny, Karma +++

The QUESTION Still remains the WHY you would Choice to either Prolong or End Yours or others Life... and What are the Terms... 
And... 
Do We Really have the Control and or the Choice ?

Personally - I have NO desire to Live into my Hundreds UNLESS...
-I could Actively Contribute MASSIVE Value to Others and myself.
-I was Healthy in a way where I was able to ACTIVELY Contribute
to Others and Self Mentally, Physically, Emotionally, and Spiritually...
-I could Actively Take Care of Myself Mentally, Physically, Emotionally, and Spiritually...
-I do Believe that ATTITUDE is everything...
-I do Believe we are ONLY as OLD as we Act and Feel.
And... I also Believe that we Can't Control everything...
And that sometimes things happen to even AMAZING people...

I have No need and or desire to Live into my Hundreds waiting for the next cure and or to have others caretake me just to see the newest and lastest technology...

Personally-
I am Okay with the Unknown...
I am Okay with the Possibilities of Next Lives...
I am Okay with Letting Go when it is time...
I am at Peace whether I Live Beyond Tomorrow...
And Because of that...
I Live Each and everyday of my Life to my Fullest ability
Mentally, Physically, Emotionally, and Spiritually...
to the best of my Ability...

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