What does being "UNIQUE" Mean to YOU ?

While Randy Gage is On a much needed Vacation, he is having is daily wisdom blogs done by Guest Speakers...

This last Blog Post written by Bruce Turkel brought up some interesting points I would Like to explore.

CLICK HERE TO READ BRUCE TURKEL'S BLOG POST on RANDY GAGE's Site...

So let's start with the definition of Unique- According to Wikipedia:

So one of the things Bruce Turkel states and I am summarizing here-  that the word UNIQUE is overused and can be of disservice because the actual search for uniqueness is an never-ending search and it is a very tall order.  He Concludes with the quote by Oscar Wilde - 
"Be Yourself. Everyone else is already taken."  
(I encourage everyone to read Bruce Turkel's post, link above, great read.)

What I would like to add to that is - some people get so wrapped up in being UNIQUE and the search that they get LOST along the way and or get so frustrated in the process of the search and what it takes to be UNIQUE... that they also wind up giving up...

One of the Keys I would like to address is:

What does "UNIQUE" mean to YOU ?

If we go by the Dictionary version that I can completely agree that is quite UNIQUE to achieve the status of UNIQUE... 

I feel like most things, everybody has a different version 

and or perspective on a definition of a word...

What is Yours ?

When I hear the Word UNIQUE and or use the Word UNIQUE or tell my clients to be UNIQUE... What I am saying and meaning is to be your Own Authentic Self...  When you are NOT being yourself and are just spitting out status quo statements, and do the typical hand movements and or Staged Postures etc... and are Attempting to be Somebody else... People know it and quite frankly are tired of the canned or memorized responses and or speeches and behavior... At least I personally am...

When I hear a friend and or speaker speak etc... I want to see the same authentic person on stage as I know him or her when I shake their hand, talk to them or go out to dinner with them...

Now let us take this a Step Further Mark Sanborn in his book "Up, Down, or Sideways" 

CLICK HERE TO GO TO MARK SANBORN's Website...

(Another Book I highly recommend...)

Mark talks about one of his Successes as a Lead trainer for Tom Peters-In Search of Excellence seminar based on the book with the same title.
Mark says that he attributes his success over other trainers because they were just copying Tom Peter's jokes, and the way Tom Peter's delivered on stage... While, Mark Sanborn choose to teach and speak from his Own Unique and Authentic way... He still delivered the same information just in his own way...

I have been in relationships way back when, when the person I was dating when we were together they were one way, then when we would go out, he would be completely different with this sailing buddies, completely different with his work out buddies, completely different with Family etc... etc... etc...

For me that is not being your authentic self.... When I would ask him why...
He would tell me, I can't let my Business or Sailing buddies know that I am Spiritual and do Yoga and am into that metaphysical stuff, they wouldn't understand...

That type of living just doesn't work for me, and I Choose to Collaborate, Share, Consult, and be with people that LOVE being just themselves...

People who know me, know what they are going to get - in person, coaching, consulting and or on stage... High Energy, Drive, Passion, and Straight Talk, that is Compassionate yet to the point...  Spiritual Yes, Metaphysical Yes, Yet when I talk , I am talking from a very grounded place with a lot of Warrior Energy... I mix in my Spiritual Metaphysical side into teaching in a very western almost logical way... so that all Audiences More Western and or More Eastern can take the tools and apply them in their daily life and business.

Not everyone wants to know what colors the chakras are, are they male or female, which way they are spinning, what organs they are associated with etc... Some people just want to know the  basics and how they can merge Eastern ways and techniques that they can apply in their daily Western ways... 

Bottom Line... Love who You are, and 

Be YOUR OWN Unique Authentic self... 

I still LOVE the word Unique... 

I just view it in a much bigger scope and with a Both AND... Mentality...  

   Enjoy the Journey...

Self-Development Courses, Tele Conferences, Web Seminars, Social Media, and Automation...

Self-Development Courses, Tele Conferences, Web Seminars, Social Media, and Automation...

Call me Crazy, however, I have a few questions for YOU...

-Who is tired of the endless Tele Conferences ???

-Who is tired of the endless Webinars ???

-Who is tired of all of the Automation of Social Media and more ???

-Who is tired of going to Self-Development Classes and being Stuck in a HOTEL for up to 8 hours a day ?

-Who is tired of being sent to these websites that are selling a course and the page goes on and on and on and is in the typical bold white, black and red and says:

NORMALLY we Charge this...

And Wait we will also give you this Bonus... 

and wait there is More...

More...

and now for this special price of ONLY $$$

$29.99 etc... and this is ONLY for today etc...

and if you ACT now we will throw in this BONUS...

Now... I am all for creating massive Abundance And... I am also a HUGE believer in human interaction...  

I have been doing massive research for over 25 years in the areas of Psychology, Healing and Learning with Environment, Color, Sound, NLP, Hypno, the different learning modalities and styles of learning etc... with various demographics from Pre-school to the Mentally Disabled to Successful Millionaires.

I even ran a preschool I created back East Called Learning, Playing and Growing for over 3 yrs and also worked for NY States disabled population within private homes and schools starting in 1986 alongside all of my medical training certifications which was spurred on by my own medical issues and work in these areas and wanting to truly find out more about interconnectedness of the Mind, Body, Business, and Spirit Connection... 

All Studies that I researched, studied, applied and more showed that:

-We learn the best when we are Playing- being in a creative, interactive open space, just look at children.

-Everyone Learns differently:  Audio, Visual, Kinesthetic, Audio Digital.

-Our Unconscious and Subconscious minds have a lot to do with what we say, and how we have created our lives.

-Our environment does impact us on multiple levels.

-Colors impact our mood and state of mind.

-Humans have a field of energy around them and beam out a certain vibration. 

-All Humans thrive with interactive human contact.

-What we eat impacts out moods and state of mind.

-Certain Sounds increase our ability to retain information and speeds up processing and integration.

-When we give things away for free, people are not fully invested in the learning.

-When our Pages have massive value and content and is given away for next to nothing Your actual value goes down and not only that you are creating a database of people that are not looking to buy, actually just looking for what  they can find for free and in doing that are truly not going to take full accountability and really dive into the reading, and or learning.

-Nothing in this life happens without someone truly being passionate and dedicated to what they are choosing to Be and or Do in this life... 

-Being creative with financing with people gives you more reach to help all demographics and in doing so people that are purchasing aren't going into debt and are 90% more apt to follow thru and pay what is owed.

-Having accountability contracts in place engages people to participate at a higher level.

-Having mentoring and or coaching built into the programs increases the rate of success and testimonies.

And sooo many other things I could go into...

So now Imagine this instead....

....Imagine you were in an Open, Home feeling type of environment as well as part of the time you were Outdoors and part of your learning was done through actual exploration of the area you were in...

...Imagine if the training course came with healthy whole food meals and snacks so you aren't running around like crazy during your Lunch breaks etc...

and waiting in long lines to get food.  

....Imagine that while you were eating it was in groups to great more of a master-mind setting to actually discuss further ways to excel in your areas of expertise.

...Imagine if the actual websites and or sales page of product was just Honest, Clear, Straight forward with Lots of Information and Value where the pricing was geared to suit your needs where you are at that moment - Hence creative financing, front end, back end, percentages, Part Money, Part Barter etc...

...Imagine all courses coming with built in human mentoring.  Where groups and or teams would be put together according to where you live so once a month you have actual human interaction and once a week with a large

group-team there is a group Conversation and once a week you have emails and for some that need further motivation daily emails that took no more than 15 minutes of your time to just check in with your Mentor and or team that this is what I am working on and I need help with this...

What are Your thoughts...

Would Love to hear some feedback...
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Who do you have in Your Life, that helps hold you accountable ?

The World of Self-Development Courses

Integrity ???  Yes ???

No ???

I have had many people ask me why I left California in 2004, and moved to Hawaii, and haven't really talked about it much... Very few know the real reason, and due to many "NDA" -Non disclosure agreements I can't say specifics, however, I will address some HUGE why's as is related to this article.

Having been on and off the stage in Numerous facets in my life from Acting, Modeling, Speaking, Producing and Directing etc... and having been an Executive Personal Assistant to CEO's, Families, and Speakers and having growing up overseas myself with a father who was a High level CEO, I can talk from direct experience about the many integrity issues within these worlds.

Now let me "PRE-FRAME" this with I was NOT born with a Silver Spoon in my mouth, in the way ONE would think, having had a father who was a High level CEO.  My family LIFE was more of a Disney "Cinderella" movie minus the happy ending... I have lived in Mansion's with body guards, drivers, maids etc... and I have lived in the middle of the jungle in an octagon, off of the land with an out house...  I have also lived strictly doing Barter.  

One of the things growing up overseas and going to MANY schools, traveling all of the time, being in a highly dysfunctional family which is an ENTIRE book in itself -did do for me was get me Clear on a FEW MAJOR KEY LIFE LESSONS and POINTS... which will tie back to the Speaker Industry and Courses and Integrity...

ONE- You can have all of the MONEY in the WORLD and that does not Guarantee: top Education, Health, a Happy, Loving home life, nor does it mean you are SAFE...

TWO- Adapt, Adjust, Absorb to everything and everyone. Be open to all points of views, Learn, Play and Grow constantly...  I learned a TON from my environment, all the different cultures, races, monetary levels etc... 

THREE- The biggest classroom and education is through actual LIVING and DOING, NOT just a formal education.

FOUR- You are Your biggest Asset... Fight for Yourself, advocate for Yourself, because nobody else will do it for You.  I am NOT saying be a LONE Island, I am Passionate about "TEAMWORK"- what I am saying is YOU need to Create Your Team, Your Family, Speak when nobody else will and get the Help you may need...  

Another PRE-FRAME... I am NOT advocating being Vocally Loud, protesting etc... I have learned that those that are LOUDLY screaming about Politics and this and that, Energetically are NO better than the people creating war etc...  

I PERSONALLY, believe what we focus on expands and that everything is Vibration thus we draw to ourselves that which we are vibrating AND... that it is a blend of environment, circumstance, paths, upbringing, family etc... 

HOWEVER... at some point if we don't take charge and accountability for OUR OWN lives, our pasts, our mistakes, circumstances, playing the VICTIM- the sick, poor, rape, etc... card will only serve to take you deeper into despair and hopelessness...  Not that I don't empathize or understand those positions and or feelings... I have been there... in more ways than one... Again another book...  So back to the Speaking Industry and Integrity...


The self-development industry in as big as the Weight loss industry. All of the books, CD's, Courses, Speakers, Products, everybody wanting the "Secret", "The Quick Fix", the "Magic Pill" 

You go to a Seminar, and there are these AMAZING speakers on stage with their AWESOME stories of this and that... I used to be Poor, I lived on the street, I was unhealthy, overweight etc... etc... etc... and NOW look at Me... Then of course there are the TESTIMONIES...  Great... NOW... That's talk Statistics, Tactics, and Sales...

Now would YOU buy or mentor from someone who: claimed that they could make you a MILLIONAIRE if they had never been one... Or teach you about Health and Fitness when they are on stage with a pot belly...  I personally wouldn't, to me that is like a "Priest" no offense, Counseling about Marriage and kids when the Priest has never been married or had a child.  Thankfully Pastors in some faiths are now allowed to experience marriage and children.
Now back to my point...

I left the industry because I got Soooo... beyond tired of seeing, hearing, and working for people who would say ONE thing on stage and the minute they got off the stage and or work, in their private lives the VERY thing they were Charging and or getting paid THOUSANDS for they would be doing and or saying the EXACT Opposite... 

AND...  because statistics show that 85% of the participants when they GOT home the Courses they bought - which were sold using the "SCARCITY TACTICS" The first 50 people who get back to the table now, will get these ADDED Bonuses etc... etc... etc...  NEVER got used, they would wind up on the bookshelves not EVEN opened and or read... AND... most of these people were THOUSANDS and THOUSANDS of DOLLARS in debt from all the courses they have purchased in hopes of this or that...  

I have heard these Stories over and over...  When in the seminar environment there is all of this HIGH level of Energy etc... however, once people get home the very environment and life that has created their issues are RIGHT smack in their face the very next morning, and they go right back into their old patterns and or ruts... 

This is what I Would LOVE to see in the self-development industry and what I have done when personally Consulting, Mentoring and or Coaching...   Why Not instead of Focusing on getting THOUSANDS into a seminar twice a year, focus on getting Hundreds into a Seminar many more times a year... and...  Why not Package into the programs the accountability Coaching...  Personally when I work with a company and or client, I want to know that they are actually going to USE and Implement  what I just taught them or the blue print I put together for them.

Yes, a lot of the big seminar companies do have Coaching Programs however, most participants don't get the coaching, because it is an ADDITIONAL Cost... What I am saying is - WHY is it extra ??? Why NOT have all programs come with the accountability coaching ??? 

What is accountability coaching:
-There are various blue prints for accountability coaching, another article.
-The ones I have found to be more successful are the ones that are NOT OVERLY time consuming and are Team oriented, not just the one on one coaching.  And... are beyond just the Mastermind Teleconference calls etc...

Bottom line, I have massively studied and taken, crewed, volunteered and worked on MANY, many programs... and done a lot of research and this is what I have discovered:
-People are tired of everything being automated
-People are tired of all of the endless conference calls
-People are Starved for HUMAN interaction
-People want RESULTS that are NOT going to REQUIRE massive time and money...
-NOT all people are the same, meaning the programs need to be Tailored to that specific person and or company. Some people learn best by reading, others by listening, others by doing etc... 

After being asked over and over and over by some clients I decided to take on another project... Putting together a unique blue-print that is TEAM oriented that has LOTS Of human interaction that DOES  NOT require massive amounts of time and can be tailored to the specific needs to individuals and or a team.

The ONE key secret I have found that works magic is, believe it or not; is DAILY interaction - however... the daily interaction is a very small amount of time, yet serves to maintain the accountability factor and then adding in the weekly interaction to anchor the daily interactions... the daily interactions is a mere 15 minutes a day, and the weekly interaction is just an hour a week or more if Needed depending on the tasks and or outcome the person and or company is seeking...  The rest is a Recipe that is being cooked as we speak...

WOULD LOVE your thoughts and or experiences within the HUGE World of
Self-development courses... And if you have any WISHES AND OR IDEAS or suggestions that you would LIKE to see developed within the Self-Development Course World.... Please let me know... All Feedback is Welcome...

"We are the Actors/Actresses, Writers, Editors, Producers, Directors, Co-Creators of Our Lives, we can create anything, anytime... Let's Do it."  

Carly Alyssa Thorne

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